Spank or he'll SHOOT!

I know you've been waiting for the comeback, so here we go again. Check out this article I just read. It talks about a study on spanking. Of course it's a study against spanking...

http://www.nydailynews.com/lifestyle/2010/04/13/2010-04-13_spanking_kids_makes_them_more_aggressive_defiant_and_prone_to_tantrums.html

DISAGREE!

My experience in college and sales has taught me that statistics can be made to prove anything. This article would have you believe that spanking kids turns them into aggressive children. Hmm... I beg to differ. Seriously? Maybe if you abused them, but not correct spanking for discipline. I believe that if more people spanked there children in the first place there would be less crime! Spanking a child should be explained, and executed quickly. Doing this teaches the child that what they did was wrong and there are consequences for their actions.

My wife Erin was in the local grocery store a few years ago when our oldest was 3 years old. While in the spaghetti jar aisle, Isaiah was acting less than perfect. As a result, Erin told him he needed to sit in the cart since he wasn't listening. Isaiah about blew a gasket, he screamed, he hollered, then he proceeded to kick the cart away. That was enough for my beautiful 8 months pregnant wife to smack his butt. It was quickly after that a nosy woman shopper walked up to Erin and informed her that she always spanked her children, but some people would report that. I hope you know Erin, cause if you do you can surely see her doing what happened next. My beautiful wife got in that lady's face and said verbatim, "The way I look at it, if I spank my child now, he won't SHOOT yours later!" That lady walked away pretty fast and ensured she wasn't in the same aisle as Erin the rest of the shopping trip. HA!

TRU DAT! We need more parents that spank. Forget this BS about it will make them aggressive. IT WILL MAKE THEM LISTEN!

Tough Boys Need Hugs Too

YEP! It's true. Tough boys need hugs too. I figured this was a good subject since my last one left people thinking I was a big ol' meanie. (You know who you are!) At any rate. We all need hugs.

However boys need hugs expecially from their fathers or father figures. OK, this is my first book plug, I'm serious when I say I'm getting no commission for this! Dr. James Dobson from Focus on the Family wrote a book and an educational series on "Bringing Up Boys". Here's a link to an excerpt on their website: http://www2.focusonthefamily.com/docstudy/bookshelf/a000000388.cfm. Fathers listen up! You want your little man to grow up and be a strong, tough, man??? Then you better fill his emotional and physical gas tank by #1 being there for him, #2 hugging him, and #3 telling him you love him. HUGS are huge! Have you ever had a hug that just made you feel safe, comforted, strong? Especially you fathers need to provide that to your boys. They will still be tough boys! They will also be tough emotionally and not just physically.

Try it. Want another cool trick??? Moms you can use this too. When your child comes home from school or anytime that they walk in, RUN TO THEM! It's hilarious! Run straight to the door yelling their name and arms open ready to give the biggest hug in the world! You think they will feel good? You think this will fill their emotional gas tank? Absolutely.

Think about this... For those of you that have a dog, who is the first one to great you at the door when you come home? THE DOG! And what do your kids and spouse do??? Keep doing what they're doing and say "hey..." WOW! What a great feeling huh? Just get home from a long day and the dog appreciates you being home more than your family. Soooooooo, try this with your children and/or spouse for that matter. RUN AT THE DOOR YELLING THEIR NAME AND GREATING THEM WITH OPEN ARMS!!! They make think you're cRaZy. But, it works for me. And people that know me already think I'm crazy so I have nothing to worry about.

Alrighty then, enough for today... Tomorrow on Raising Tough Boys... Are you proud of him???

~Love peace and chicken grease