Sibling Fighting

Tough boys fight? Really? LOL. In my house sibling fighting is a daily, sometimes hourly event. An unauthorized UFC event involving three tough boys, all which they believe they're the strongest, best, and always right. There just being boys! Chill people! Especially the people that don't have or understand boys that look at you like you're smoking crack when you watch your boys beat the crap out of each other and look at you in amazement that you're not stopping them immediately. Hey, I'd much rather have them practice and be beat up by their brothers than other kids. And guess what??? If anyone does mess with them, all of a sudden they all will knock the crap out of that poor soul.

Do I encourage the fights? No. Do I play fight with them? Yes. Do I punch them harder than normal Dad's? Heck yeah. I don't want them to be normal. I want my boys to be tougher than others. This is a blog about raising tough boys, not raising boys to be wimps and cry. LOL! How many of you are going to disagree with what I'm saying??? HA! Now for those wondering, I give you permission to ask my boys if I hurt them when I punch and fight with them. I'm pretty confident they'll laugh at you and say no.

All of my boys are interest in MMA. I'm in Judo and they ask when they can start going consistently. It will be a blast watching them in tournaments.

Here's a proud moment that happened not too long ago... My 6 year old was "play fighting" with a boy that was 9. My son was dominating the other boy. Just so you know I wouldn't consider the other boy a wimp, I'd actually classify him as a tough boy. However, at one point during the fight when my son was getting punched he smarted off to the kid "HAHAHA! You're 3 years older than me and you can't hurt or beat me!" Yes, I am proud. I will enjoy your responses!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Are you proud of your tough boy?

I'm very proud of my sons. I tell them all the time. Do you? This means a HUGE deal to a boy coming from his father! Seriously, fathers are looked at as the closest thing in the child's mind of the image of God. Boys only want to be accepted and have their father be proud of them. Sooooo, tell them! It's that simple.

Try this... "I love you son. I will always love you no matter what. Do you know why? Cause you're MY son. I'm so proud of you son." This will make your son's day. Give him a huge hug.

Next we'll talk about fighting...

Tough Boys Need Hugs Too

YEP! It's true. Tough boys need hugs too. I figured this was a good subject since my last one left people thinking I was a big ol' meanie. (You know who you are!) At any rate. We all need hugs.

However boys need hugs expecially from their fathers or father figures. OK, this is my first book plug, I'm serious when I say I'm getting no commission for this! Dr. James Dobson from Focus on the Family wrote a book and an educational series on "Bringing Up Boys". Here's a link to an excerpt on their website: http://www2.focusonthefamily.com/docstudy/bookshelf/a000000388.cfm. Fathers listen up! You want your little man to grow up and be a strong, tough, man??? Then you better fill his emotional and physical gas tank by #1 being there for him, #2 hugging him, and #3 telling him you love him. HUGS are huge! Have you ever had a hug that just made you feel safe, comforted, strong? Especially you fathers need to provide that to your boys. They will still be tough boys! They will also be tough emotionally and not just physically.

Try it. Want another cool trick??? Moms you can use this too. When your child comes home from school or anytime that they walk in, RUN TO THEM! It's hilarious! Run straight to the door yelling their name and arms open ready to give the biggest hug in the world! You think they will feel good? You think this will fill their emotional gas tank? Absolutely.

Think about this... For those of you that have a dog, who is the first one to great you at the door when you come home? THE DOG! And what do your kids and spouse do??? Keep doing what they're doing and say "hey..." WOW! What a great feeling huh? Just get home from a long day and the dog appreciates you being home more than your family. Soooooooo, try this with your children and/or spouse for that matter. RUN AT THE DOOR YELLING THEIR NAME AND GREATING THEM WITH OPEN ARMS!!! They make think you're cRaZy. But, it works for me. And people that know me already think I'm crazy so I have nothing to worry about.

Alrighty then, enough for today... Tomorrow on Raising Tough Boys... Are you proud of him???

~Love peace and chicken grease

Don't rush to pick them up!

Have you ever witnessed a boy falling and the mom running to pick them up? Chances are the boy was crying, however only after the boy saw the look on the mom's face. Don't rush to pick him up! That boy is going to take more falls. He will survive. Let him sit there for a minute.

Here's my two cents... when you rush to pick up the boy, he doesn't learn to get over his pain on his own. Instead he associates pain followed by being coddled. What is this going to do when the boy is not surrounded by his mom or dad? I'll tell you what will happen... the boy will fall, he will look for someone to come pick him and and he will cry like a little baby. Then the adults and other children that are around are going to look at him and think "what a wuss". I'm just saying... You know some of you have thought this... I'm just saying it.

Disclaimer... Now obvisouly if the boy has a severe injury you do want to pick him up and get help or medical attention. Do your boy a favor... don't run to pick him up. Instead tell him "Well that hurt didn't it?" , "Yeah, son sometimes you fall, it stings for a bit, now get up and be a man." LOL. OK, I'm not totally like that. You do need compassion. Boys do need hugs. However, that's my next subject.

Raising Tough Boys

What is a tough boy? How do you raise a tough boy? Were you a tough boy?

Hello world! I really wanted to start this blog because more and more I see boys that aren't tough. It's sad really. A tough boy doesn't mean they can't be nice. It simply means they don't let the little stuff bother them. I hope to bring light to this subject through this blog. I want to open discussions and hear from you. I hope you like it.

First a little background... I was the oldest growing up. I have one full brother, two half-sisters, one half-brother, two step brothers, and two step sisters. No, we didn't all live together. LOL. I actually lived my childhood with my brother 5 years younger and my sister 15 years younger.

OK, before I take this blog into another direction... I'm going to have to get off the background and get back to raising tough boys. Maybe I just thought of another blog... growingupwithcraziness.blogger.com. HA!

I have three boys. (and one girl, again another blog... blondecrazysassypinkonewithdaddywrappedaroundherfinger.blogger.com). My boys are five, six, and ten. They all have very different personalities. Since my first son was born I knew I didn't want to grow up boys that were called "sissy", "mama's boy", etc. I've watched too many boys be sheltered from a little dirt, blood, and messiness.

Boys need to be more tough these days. Too many cry for little things. Too many boys go to mom first. It is my hope to bring awareness and to help those of you wanting to raise tough boys.

next topic... Don't Rush to Pick Them Up!